You should have asked Davison Cheney
- On starting over, again -
Dear Prodigal Dad,
Thank you for the question, and let me assure you that you have come to the right place. I am called Prodigal Dad because I have screwed up so many times that I don't remember where I started. If I were to telekineticly jump into my own head at ten years old, I don't think I would recognize myself. And others around me have been pretty forgiving -- for the most part.
Messing up and its repercussions are the stuff of life. Some of us have more stuff. I am all stuffed out.
That being said, many believe that the first step to making changes in your life is to forgive yourself. However, that has not been true for me. It has taken me forty years to figure out that focusing on myself is what got me in trouble in the first place. The first part of moving on is to forgive others -- for these reasons and several others.
|Some mistakes are hard to live down|
A- People who have wronged you in the past may find themselves in the same stage of life that you are in. They may be wondering if you could ever forgive them.
B- I believe in the religion of "What goes around comes around", and the more you forgive others of their being a jerk, odds are that you will find the forgiveness you are looking for as well.
C- It's the right thing to do. Never underestimate the power of doing the right thing.
Next thing to do is to make changes in your life because of what you have learned. Mighty changes are mighty tough, so start with the small ones and aim at consistency. Learn from what you have done, but do not dwell on the sheer awfulness of it. The more time you think about how badly you screwed up, the less time and power you have to move in a different direction. When you are in a feeling bad about the direction of your your life's groove, go a different direction. Say to yourself, "what can I do right now to make things better?" Then do it.
Forgiving yourself will come on it's own time when you are busy making life better for those around you.
"Life is a series of meetings and partings," said Charles Dickens. I just hope that those people I have met are willing to forgive me of my arrogance and stupidity, and love me in spite of everything after we have parted. I will have faith that those who have seen me mess up will be as willing to forgive as I am to dole out forgiveness of my own
And about the second thing: get a throw rug or invest in neutral colored ceramic flooring.